1. It feels good to purge. When you get your “house” in order you feel better. It’s that simple.
On the inner, if there are emotions you’ve been stuffing − let them out! There’s a growing body of evidence supporting the notion that unresolved negative emotions are a factor in many diseases once thought of as stemming solely from hard-core biomedical origins. It makes sense when you think about it. Inner struggles you don’t confront head on can come out sideways. Freud taught, that which is repressed gets expressed, and, that which we resist persists. The continuous energy eventually impacts something. So, let it out − and while you’re at it…
Finish what you’ve been putting off; start that book; ask that person to dinner; try a new restaurant; buy that new piece of clothing you’ve had your eye on; take that trip you’ve been thinking of; get your face out of your phone and make eye contact with someone; stop texting and have a real conversation; get offline and meet a real person; get out of the office; turn off the TV and get out of the house; in a nut shell, carpe diem...
On the outer, clean and deodorize; declutter and organize. Why? Fresh and ordered surroundings calm the mind. If you don’t use it, lose it. So, donate those old clothes; buy new pillows, sheets, and towels; clean the closet; clean the car; get a new shower curtain and tidy up the bowl; fire up some potpourri on the stove; wash the windows; dust; vacuum; mop the floors…Oh my, I’m exhausted already.
2. Give up a bad habit.
3. Start a good habit.
4. Transform unhealthy relationships into more harmonious ones.
5. End destructive relationships.
6. Begin healthy relationships.
7. Forgive someone. Then forgive yourself. Wisdom says, “holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
8. Manage your money more wisely. Suze Orman says, “people first, then money, then things.”
9. Put yourself first. Selfish is doing what you want despite others wishes − being inconsiderate. Self-care is taking care of yourself to be more helpful to others. You can’t get very far if you don’t fill your gas tank first. That’s why they tell you on the plane to put your mask on first before you help others. It’s not selfish to put you first. In fact, it’s self-destructive not to. So get a massage, facial, new hair-style, makeover, rest, relax, rejuvenate, recharge your batteries.
10. It can be metamorphosing to do something symbolic or ritualistic. Plant a garden. Chant. Perform martial arts moves. Dance. Breathe. Retreat into nature. Bake something. Create something (arts and crafts). Paint something.
Oh, be yourself, have more fun, love and laugh more…
It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power. Alan Cohen