Maybe all you do is try your hardest and still feel like you’re not good enough? Do you spend a fair share of time trying to figure out what guys want? Frustrated? Feel like you have a flaw? It’s hard out there with all the pressure to measure up. We can be unsatisfied. In my workshop, 10 Quick Tips To Find True Love, many men said they needed: more friends romance, a Mr. Right, a Mr. Right Now, to be closer to their partner, the “straight acting” thing to be over. Maybe you see yourself somewhere in their concerns:
“I need more gay friends.” “What’s with all the attitude?” “Why’s it so hard to meet a man with substance?” “How do I make my relationship work?” “How do I come out?” “Where do I fit in? I’m not your average gay man.” “Is it all about sex and parties?” “I’m tired of the bars?” “What’s with all ‘the attitude’?” “Why aren’t gay men nicer to each other?” “Why’s it so hard to meet a man?” “I need more friends.” “I don’t know how to meet guys?” “I don’t know how to talk about safer sex?” “I’m angry about the hard struggle for gay rights.” “I’m the only gay guy at work.” “I want to break these negative patterns.” “I’m bored by the monotony in my relationship?” “How do I make a relationship work?” Stressed? Unhappy? Juggling body image issues? Addicted? Single and tired of “the scene?” Need help with your partner? Too much to lose to come out?
Facing a mountain, often we can be hardest on ourselves. To help you be gentle with yourself, here are four confidence building questions.
What aspect or part of yourself are you most critical of?
- If that aspect of you belonged to someone you love, how would you assure them it’s okay?
- What’s one step you could take toward accepting that aspect or part of yourself?
- Why is someone lucky to know you?
Quote: “It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” Agnes Repplier
An Ask Angelo Affirmation: I am a beautiful, unique, and magnificent. There’s no one like me. I have special gifts to share with the world. I am grateful to be me. When someone rejects me, it has nothing to do with me. They’re taking care of themselves. I affirm my value and move forward in confidence.